Why rhetorical questions do not cause pain, even though they have the same wording as a question causes pain:
A rhetorical question, a question that is simply posed without really wanting to know what the answer is, does not cause pain. The same question, however, posed with great interest, produces intense pain.
A nice example is the morning question at work: "Hello, how are you? Everything okay?"
That's a question, it's purely rhetorical. Nobody wants to know how you are really doing. But if there really is someone who asks this question and really wants to know how you are, then you feel bad. The questioner pulls off energy. He wants to have information from you. It disables a part of your brain where this information is. He wants her from you. He wants you to tell him how you're doing. This then causes the pain, discomfort, etc. ..
So again. A purely rhetorical question does not create pain, while a question that is really interesting generates pain. It is not the question or the words that create the pain in you. Especially the interest, this WANTING the other. The greed for the information in your head. That creates the pain. The lack of information in the questioner's head creates the pain when he wants the answers.
Well, remember. Not all questions, although they sound the same, do not cause pain.